Day 3

Interesting resources on how our emotions are carried in our physical bodies are Michael Lincoln’s Messages from the Body and the works of Louise Hay.

How are you feeling? Not too bad I hope. These first few days represent the part of the program that is the most challenging emotionally, and I have a pretty good idea of what you might be going through at this stage in the game. Hang in there with me though. It is worth it.

This unit is about journaling about how it was for you to tell your story. As a way to get started make an attempt to answer each of the following questions:

  1. What it was like to write about how you were victimized. Was it difficult to access the memories or face the truth? Did you find yourself wanting to minimize the abuse or make excuses for them? What thoughts passed through your mind? What feelings came up for you? Did you dream about it last night?
  2. What happened in your physical body? Did you have particular sensations anywhere in your body? If so, where in your body? Do you have any health challenges in that area of your body? Do you carry excess weight in one part of your body in particular?

I ask these questions in particular because there is wisdom in your body, and it is often telling us what and whom we need to forgive. If your body did respond while you were telling your story, it might have been telling you where the energy of the abuse may be stuck in your body. It means that the energy is on the move, which is a good sign. Things are happening already, and we are only three days into the program.

The third thing I want you to do is to identify and name the feelings that came up for you or were there even before you started writing. List them in your journal. For example, you may have been feeling anger, sadness, rage, guilt, shame, resentment, self-pity, and so on.

Finally, as you reflect on those feelings, ponder each of the following statements and make a brief comment on them. [You may recognize them as being questions that are on the Radical Forgiveness Worksheet.]

  • I love myself for having those feelings, and I judge them no more.
  • I am entitled to my feelings no matter what they are.
  • I own my feelings; no one can make me feel anything.
  • My feelings are good feedback about how I see the situation at this time.

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