Day 20

It is an ever-present danger, once you have forgiven someone out there that you become tempted to turn it inwards and project it all back on yourself. It is a remnant of the old paradigm that we feel that someone must be blamed for what happened. It must be someone’s fault, and if it is not yours, then it must be mine. The feeling that engenders, of course, is guilt. And, at it is worst, shame.

I want you to check in with yourself to see if you’ve been “shoulding” on yourself in the last few days. What has been the content of your self-talk lately? What has your inner critic been saying to you? Here’re some possible shoulds and guilt trips you might recognize:

  • I should have done more to defuse the situation a lot earlier
  • It was my self-righteousness that kept me stuck
  • I should have had more compassion and understanding
  • I have damaged my life by being so self-righteous
  • I have been stupid to have allowed this to ruin my credibility
  • My life might have been better if I’d not been always looking out for trouble.

Write in your journal everything you might have been saying to yourself that has caused you to feel guilt and self-recrimination about this particular situation. And, be truthful.

When you have completed the assignment, and ONLY after you have completed it, click the Next button to learn why you are not entitled to feel guilty about any of them.

However, before you do, listen to this beautiful song by Karen Taylor-Good. It is titled; I Forgive You — Me.

I know you will enjoy the song, but the experience will be enhanced if you have a mirror handy. It helps to be looking in your own eyes when Karen sings this song. You might also need some tissues.

I’ll see you on the other side when you have clicked through.