Guilt About Current Behavior
The “Crimes and Misdemeanors” module focused on Retrospective Guilt – i.e., remorse over things that you have done in the past.
This module focuses on what you are doing or not doing NOW that lead to your feeling guilt and self-recrimination.
Here are some examples:
|Still smoking||Eating too much||Masturbating too often|
|Procrastinating||Ignoring problems||Having an affair|
|Habitually lying||Withholding love||Working too much|
|Ignoring family||Ignoring friends||Abusing self|
|Not exercising||Always late||Overspending|
|Wasting time||No purpose||Weak boundaries|
|Obsessing||Sabotaging||Drinking too much|
|Doing drugs||Ignoring health||Addictive behavior|
|Stealing||Acting out||Always in debt|
You will recognize some of these, no doubt, and you will be able to add some of your own that are specific to you when you make a list in a few moments.
Most of these things are habitual behaviors that you find difficult to stop. It’s that which makes you feel guilty. You know it’s wrong or bad, but you just can’t stop doing them or change your ways. You keep “shoulding” on yourself, but seem unable to do much about them.
This is because many of these behaviors are being driven by core-negative beliefs. (You will be finding out what some of these are as you proceed through the Self-Acceptance Program.) In fact, these behaviors are pointers to the negative beliefs, which because they are nearly always unconscious, would otherwise go undetected. In that sense these behaviors are very helpful to you.
Once you have discovered those underlying beliefs, you will at least understand why the behaviors are so difficult to change. Once you know why, you can stop being so hard on yourself.
List All Your Current Activities And Habits About Which You Feel Guilty.
You’ll want to include the least significant as well as the very significant. As before, give them a rating on a scale of 1-100, with 100 being the very highest level of guilt and self-recrimination.
Click “Next” to Make Your List