Wow! You should get the Pulitzer Prize for journalism! You did a great. How did you feel about it, once you had finished? Did it seem like it was not about you anymore? Was it like you were writing about someone else?
Now, let’s look at how you constructed your story from a rather different angle. I’d like you to look at the expectations that were unmet in your story. Also, what demands were you implicitly making in your story, that might have been unreasonable.
Let me quote you one statement and the question that appears on the Radical Forgiveness worksheet that might tell you how important this inquiry might be to you in this program.”My discomfort is my signal that I am withholding love from myself and . . . by judging, holding expectations, wanting . . . to change and seeing. . . as less than perfect.”
Before going any further, let me make an important point about this and indeed the whole of this 7-day phase during which we are collapsing the story. By doing any of this work; we are in no way trying to negate your feelings or dishonor your story in any way. Not at all.
There is also a risk that we might appear to be condoning certain behaviors. Or, making excuses for this person in such a way as to suggest you had no right to react to him/her in the way that you did. Believe me, that is NOT our intention. We are only trying to collapse the energy field that you have around the story so that when we do get to the actual forgiveness part (and this isn’t it yet), what little energy remains will be dissolved easily and quickly.
You will also see when we get to Phase Three and begin the reframe, that how you reacted was all part of the plan and was meant to be. So, please don’t take any part of what follows as a criticism of you in any way whatsoever.
For more on this perspective and to make a list of your judgments and expectations, click below.