The International Institute for Radical Forgiveness and Leadership (IIRFL) has been borne out of the Institute for Radical Forgiveness, which was developed by Colin Tipping in 1997. In 2018, Colin chosen Godfrey O’Flaherty to be the Custodian and owner of the Radical Forgiveness work. Godfrey has bought all the Radical Forgiveness Intellectual Property, as well as the business of Radical Forgiveness, as a Global Enterprise from Collin Tipping.
The Institute’s mission is to raise consciousness through expanding forgiveness across the globe. The IIRFL is the official international body which will govern all the work of Radical Forgiveness, globally.
Radical Forgiveness has been translated into 9 languages across 51 countries. The IIRFL accredit and register coaches across the globe, to add to its already thriving body of coaches and students.
Additionally, IIRFL will continue to expand its global reach, as it recently set up the Africa Institute Affiliate for IIRFL. The Africa Institute will work throughout the continent in the field of forgiveness and as a bridge-building institution for individuals, organizations and communities.
Training and Development
Under the direction of Godfrey O’Flaherty, we are establishing a Centre for Research, to focus on coaching research about the impact of forgiveness and healing of the body, mind and soul. The Institute is in the process of refreshing our current Radical Forgiveness Coaching and developing other future programs, including:
The IIRFL will house the Colin Tipping Foundation, in loving memory of Colin and his incredible work. This foundation will be a philanthropic organization, managed on behalf of funders. It aims to create projects and programs run under the Radical Forgiveness banner that will facilitate emotional healing around the world. Using the Radical Forgiveness methodologies, projects will include developing youth leaders, addressing gender base discrimination and guiding communities globally on dealing with social challenges. (Using the Radical Forgiveness technology, example projects include developing youth leaders, empowering woman and dealing with social challenges faced by communities around the world.)
IIRFL seeks to play a more active role in the education space. We aim to equip the youth globally, especially from disadvantageous communities to deal effectively with the challenges these communities face. With this aim in mind we strive to contribute constructively to the emotional wellbeing of young learners, throughout the world. The Colin Tipping philanthropy foundation will fund these international systemic forgiveness projects. The mission of the Colin Tipping Foundation is to facilitate emotional wellbeing, living with awareness and resilience which will enable learners to embrace, advance and develop their full human potential.
Finally, leadership development is also at the heart of the Institute’s future focus. With the IIRFL, Godfrey seeks to use his passion and experience in leadership development, by creating programs that will help leaders in communities, organizations and all walks of life to rise above their own egos and in so doing being released from their shadow that derails them from their purpose. In this way, the IIRFL aims to bring reconciliation and promote healing through Radical Forgiveness programs.
The International Institute for Radical Forgiveness and Leadership looks forward to partnering with you on this personal growth and development journey
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Who am I when I am just being me? What is my true natural way of being when I am not trying to impress anyone, teach anyone, sell something, etc.? What are the unchanging features of my personality and character – both good and bad?
Check the boxes you feel apply to you.
There are 12 main Archetypes, according to Carl Jung, that every human participates in throughout their lives. Each type has its own set of values, meanings and personality traits. People have several archetypes at play in their personality construct; however, one archetype tends to dominate the personality in general. It can be helpful to know which archetypes are at play in oneself.
Place a checkmark next to the 3 that seem to be most like you. (They will show up in the final report.)
The Inferred Self is what we may have become in order to be accepted, i.e. the person others have wanted us to be.
Check the boxes that people think I am, but are not me.
On a scale of 1 – 10, how upsetting is that for you?
On a scale of 1 – 10, how misunderstood do you think you are?
Which parts of yourself do you feel as though you have shut down as a direct result of the way others misperceive you.
Check all that apply.
My story about how and why I have shut down or traded away aspects of myself for love, power, safety or money is as follows:
Write in the Box.
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If I had a chance to do it all over again, the one thing I would not trade is:
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Try this little exercise first. Pick someone you find objectionable and list 10 things about them you dislike.
Person I find objectionable
Things I Dislike About them
My shadow is composed of a number of ‘uncool’ identities I have been unable to accept about myself. I have denied this self-hatred, repressed and projected it onto others so I can feel free of it and make others wrong for it. I can come to know what ‘uncool’ parts of me I’m denying by recognizing that what I find objectionable in others is a reflection of what I hate in myself.
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What I am seeing in the list below is my shadow self being reflected by
The judgments that I have listed below about are reflecting my own self-hatred.
What I am now willing to love and accept in myself is:
The Person I Have Become – as a result of Trying
Check off any words in the list which describe who you’ve tried to become. In other words, check off words that you think complete this sentence honestly:
The person I have become as a result of trying to please others, survive, gain acceptance, and be OK can be described as
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The Person I Have Become – as a result of Trying
Checklist Summary
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Summarizing those I checked above in Question 6, this is what I have become in order to please others or survive:
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How and who would you love to be if there were no limitations, expectations, or barriers? If you were really free to be who you wanted to be, what would it look like? Who are your personal heroes and role models?
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What is it about your heroes and role models that you can imagine having in yourself?
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On a scale of 1 – 100, where 0-10 indicates a big difference between your perceived authentic self and the inferred self, based on how others see you, whereas 90 would indicate that the two are pretty close and therefore congruent.
On a scale of 1 – 100, where 0-10 indicates a big difference between your perceived authentic self and ideal self, that being the person you really want to be, whereas 90 would indicate that your two visions of yourself are close and therefore congruent.
How you see the world and your place in it is an important aspect of who you are spiritually. (Bear in mind that we are not just physical). We are an amalgam of mind, body and spirit. So, we need to consider the whole. Your world view is not a static thing. It changes all the time as new ideas come into your experience. But big changes can be difficult to integrate and may be challenging, at least for a while.
Obviously, since your world view is the sum of the total of all the ideas, attitudes, beliefs, preferences, values and prejudices that you hold about life in general, it has to have come from somewhere. Not only do you learn it from your parents but the world view that you grow up with is constructed according to the values of the entire society you live in. Including the religious institutions contained therein, even if you don’t personally attend one. They still have an enormous input in how we all see the world.
Below are descriptions of six different world views.
Read each one and decide how much it matches your own world view.
Then assign each a score of zero to 100, depending on how much it matches. For example
1.I take a rather scientific/secular/rational view of life. I think that human beings are simply part of the evolutionary spiral and that like every other animal on the planet, we are born; we live; and then we die. Yes, there’s a lot more to it than that, but that’s more or less it in a nutshell. I am not a strong believer in a deity (God, though I wouldn’t go so far as to call myself an atheist. I am not inclined to think there is a reality beyond what I register with my five senses. If there is, I have no real idea what that might be like. I am certainly not in touch with it and wouldn’t know how to talk about it. Forgiveness to me means making a conscious decision to let bygones be bygones. I think life can be understood and explained by science and by logical reasoning. The theory of evolution makes perfect sense to me and that means life has no meaning beyond that idea that we have evolved from a primeval soup, more or less accidentally. My purpose in life has been to live it fully, earn good money, raise a family and make life as secure as possible because life can be hard, relentless, chaotic and randomly organized. Life is just a string of random events that happen by chance and I have to respond in the best way I know how.
2.My spirituality and my worldview come directly from my religious beliefs. I tend to see the world in terms of a continual struggle between good and evil. I believe that evil does exist and it is my job to stay vigilante and defend against the ever present danger of evil (Satan coming into my life. God made this world and He made me as well. He remains in heaven but is always watching and judging me harshly for having committed the original sin. When I die, I hope He will judge me kindly, though, and I will go to heaven. If I don’t live a good life I will go to hell. I believe in being kind to others but I believe forgiveness is not ours to bestow. All we can do is ask God (Jesus) to do it on our behalf, so in my opinion forgiveness is prayer and ultimately, should the prayer by answered, Grace.
I believe that life is a matter of following the laws laid down by God. I don’t think science has the answers to life and I think the answer to all my problems is prayer. I think my purpose on this planet is to be good, to be kind and to serve the Lord. Life is cruel and nasty and that suffering is the result of sin – a kind of punishment and a way of atonement.
3. I am somewhat open to spiritual ideas and find them intellectually interesting, but I wouldn’t necessarily call myself a very spiritual person. Nor would I see myself as being very religious. I do think there is a spiritual side to life and a higher intelligence operating in my life, but I have no idea what that might be. I think the ordinary concept of God is far too simplistic but I don’t have an alternative. I don’t think about it much. I just get on with my life.
I am scientifically oriented and rational minded. My approach to life is practical, secular and very much grounded in an everyday reality. It is my duty to do what I can to make life meaningful and beneficial not just to myself but others too. I am concerned about the environment and social issues. Beyond that, life is about becoming educated, earning good money, raising a family and making life as secure as possible because life can be hard and unforgiving. Life is just a string of random events that give me the chance to learn about myself.
4. I see life as a mystery, not so much to be understood and figured out, but to be experienced as fully as possible. I think the most spiritual people are the ones who are most human. I am very open to the idea that there is more than one reality. There is at least this physical reality that we inhabit bodily every day, but I am also very open to the idea that there is another reality that we cannot see which we might call the spiritual reality. I don’t think anyone really knows what that reality is, but when I open my eyes fully and feel into my gut, I sense evidence enough that such a reality exists. And I am comfortable with that. I have my own way of connecting with that reality and expressing my spirituality (e.g. organized religion, being a member of like-minded groups, meditation, retreats, healing, praying, chanting, etc.) and I am happy with this. Forgiveness to me is done by extending compassion to the other person and seeing him or her as an imperfect human being just like me and everyone else.
I have my feet firmly on the ground and yet still have a hard time trusting life. I’m not sure what I believe but I feel intuitively that life is more than just earning money, owning more things and raising a family.
5.I am a spiritual being having a human experience. By that I mean that I have chosen to come to planet Earth in order to learn lessons and evolve spiritually. This is the school and life is the curriculum. What happens during my life are my lessons. I had made agreements with souls prior to my incarnation that they would do things not so much TO me, though it will feel that way while I am in a body, but FOR me. I also enroll others while I’m here to give me opportunities to learn. They look like my enemies, but I see them as my healing angels. That’s how I see forgiveness — that everything that happens occurs for a spiritual purpose and that, while we remain accountable for what we do in the human world, in purely spiritual terms nothing wrong ever happens.
I am aware of being in two realities simultaneously. I am still predominantly living in the world of humanity and feel very much grounded in the experience of being human, but at the same time I am very much conscious of my connection to Spirit and have a strong sense of why I am here. I am comfortable with myself and am confident that life is supportive of me in general and is giving me lots of opportunities to learn and grow. Everything that happens is meant to happen the way it does for my soul’s growth. There are no accidents.
6. I am totally into metaphysics and I see myself now as a very spiritual person. One of the ways I see our life on this planet is being on the wheel of Karma, reincarnating over and over, lifetime after lifetime, learning lessons, balancing energies and evolving spiritually until one reaches completion. I am in touch with the spiritual realm and receive guidance from that side of the veil. I have several spirit guides and I talk with angels a lot. I believe that we human beings are all part of the Godhead, our purpose for our life being to assist God in expanding His/Her consciousness and eventually to co-create Heaven on Earth. As far as forgiveness is concerned, I am certain in my own mind that everything is in perfect Divine order and that there is nothing to forgive.
I am able to live in both realities at the same time and am grounded in both. I embrace life and know what my purpose is in living this lifetime. I am willing to feel my feelings fully whenever something upsetting occurs and then move through it quickly. I still use Radical Forgiveness worksheets to keep my energy field clear of things that might lower my vibration, such as resentment, jealousy, guilt and shame. I am willing to feel them but not to keep them. I can manifest what I need when I need it.
My World View Now:
(Having read each of these and thought about how I see things, make an attempt to write your own world view here.)
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