Where Am I Now?

1.Shock and Denial

Indicate how long you were, or still are, in each one of the stages, bearing in mind you are likely to bounce backwards and forwards from one to another for a period of time after the death, and in more than one at any one time.

Which stage do you feel you are in at this time, predominantly?

Describe how you feel at this moment.

2. Anger

Indicate how long you were, or still are, in each one of the stages, bearing in mind you are likely to bounce backwards and forwards from one to another for a period of time after the death, and in more than one at any one time. Which stage do you feel you are in at this time, predominantly? Describe how you feel at this moment.

3. Depression

Indicate how long you were, or still are, in each one of the stages, bearing in mind you are likely to bounce backwards and forwards from one to another for a period of time after the death, and in more than one at any one time.. Which stage do you feel you are in at this time, predominantly? Describe how you feel at this moment.

4. Bargaining

Indicate how long you were, or still are, in each one of the stages, bearing in mind you are likely to bounce backwards and forwards from one to another for a period of time after the death, and in more than one at any one time.. Which stage do you feel you are in at this time, predominantly? Describe how you feel at this moment.

5. Acceptance/Resolution

Indicate how long you were, or still are, in each one of the stages, bearing in mind you are likely to bounce backwards and forwards from one to another for a period of time after the death, and in more than one at any one time.. Which stage do you feel you are in at this time, predominantly? Describe how you feel at this moment.

How much are you still holding on?

e.g. Are you still keeping things as they were before the death? Are his or her clothes still in the closet? Do you maintain the same habits and rituals like before? Do you still make decisions about life as if he or she were still there and ask yourself, “What would he or she have wanted me to do?”

At Which Stage(s) of Radical Forgiveness Do You Feel Yourself to be in Now?