Video 4

MASTER COACH TRAINING
Module 16. Death, Tragedy, and Other Illusions
Video Four: The Abortion Issue

Welcome to the fourth video in Module 16 in which we look at the abortion issue. Many of those who have had an abortion, or been a party to that decision, carry a lot of pain around terminating a pregnancy and feel very guilty about it. Some women experience it as a profound loss, especially if they were unable to conceive again and missed out on the chance to have children of their own.

Unfortunately, the issue of abortion has become extremely polarized. On one side, there are those who oppose it under any circumstances; and on the other side, there those who feel that it is a personal choice.

We don’t hear much from people who might wish to find some sensible middle ground between the two extremes, although I am sure that most people would like to see a more nuanced position discussed. I do, however, think that in the way we conceive of it and how we treat people who are faced with the decision offers us a wonderful opportunity to expand into Love around this difficult philosophical issue.

Like most issues that have become polarized to this extent, neither side can claim to know the answer to the basic spiritual questions that are at the core of this issue. Agreement is often, therefore, impossible because while science tells us all about the intricacies of fertilization and cell division, it has nothing to say about the process by which a soul enters the body, and what happens to it if the pregnancy is terminated.

No one else knows the answer to that question either, and there is very little discussion about it. Most churches are dogmatic about it, but they are no better informed regarding the truth than anyone else. Both sides take positions on it based on assumptions which have no basis in fact but merely support their own prejudices.

This is exactly what I am about to do since I don’t know either. All I can do, like everyone else, is come up with a story based on certain assumptions and inspired guesses about how we transition between the spiritual and physical realms through the processes of birth and death.

But first, let me say this. Abortion is an extremely important issue and is worthy of our deep consideration on ethical, social, and spiritual grounds. There is no question in my mind about that. So, I do not enter into this discussion lightly. I am also mindful of the fact that I am a man; and as such, I have no way of knowing what it is like to have the spiritual responsibility for giving life to a soul that requests to come through. Only a woman knows. Men need to honor this and have enough humility to admit that they are not privy to the
same knowledge as women, and should be willing to defer to feminine wisdom when it comes to the process of giving life.

Nevertheless, the ideal for a couple is that the decision is a joint one even if the criteria for making the decision to go one way or the other might not be exactly the same.

If the woman is underage, and/or not married or in a committed relationship, then the parents may be involved in the decision. So, the potential for drama, in that case, is very high. Depending on the
circumstances, a lot of forgiveness might be called for on everybody’s part, but here I am focusing on the one who is thinking of having, or has had, an abortion. For example:
1. Forgiving yourself for getting pregnant in the first place.
2. Forgiving the man for getting you pregnant in the first place.
3. Forgiving the man for not supporting you in your decision.
4. Forgiving the man if he puts undue pressure on you to abort.
5. Forgiving those who brought pressure on you on religious or political grounds.
6. Forgiving the makers of the contraceptives that failed you.
7. Forgiving the male-dominated church for shaming you and others in your situation.
8. Forgiving the politicians for making it a political issue and exploiting your situation.
9. Forgiving family members and parents for shaming you and not supporting your decision.

But for all that, looking at it from the soul’s point of view, bearing in mind everything I have said before about the soul being immortal and having the ability to choose its parents and decide on its mission, I can easily imagine the soul might be disappointed if the woman it wants to incarnate through says, “No, not right now.”
After all, that soul may have given a lot of thought to why that person was the ideal parent to experience life through. It may even have been an agreed soul contract between it and the soul of the mother.

But disappointment notwithstanding, I cannot imagine that the soul is mortally wounded if the mother says ‘No,’ even if it has already anchored itself in the form we call a fetus. If it was aborted, it would not be extinguished any more than a soul would who, as a baby, died a SIDS death, or the soul of a soldier killed in battle would be snuffed out. The soul cannot die. It simply goes back home to the spiritual realm, in all probability, no worse for wear but perhaps having experienced something instructive and valuable. And who
is to say that the soul did not choose to have the abortion experience in order to balance the energy of having been a woman who aborted a fetus in a previous life.

This is not to say, however, that a woman and her partner who is, or should be, party to the decision should enter into this decision without a lot of careful and thoughtful consideration. There probably was a good reason why that soul requested passage into the human experience through her, and this has to be honored.
One has to consider whether the reasons for saying ‘No’ are really good enough to support that decision given the opportunity being presented for both mother and future child. One has to consider all sides of the argument before making the decision.

But the prospective mother has a soul too, and her soul’s wishes need to be honored as well. I think it is possible that the Spiritual World, not really understanding how difficult life can be down here in the dense vibration of the physical realm, can sometimes put too much of a load on the shoulders of a soul who has taken on a body. I’m sure everything looks very easy from up there. I think they also understand that a soul who is in a human body is entitled to say “No” to whatever task he or she is being given at any one time. After
all, it is a principle that we have free will and sometimes that freedom is exercised by saying “No” to a soul who is asking to incarnate through that soul’s body.

I do think, however, that it is important that the woman says “No” as early as possible after discovering that she is pregnant.

Notwithstanding the fact that none of us know when the attachment actually happens, I can imagine that the more strongly the soul’s energetic vibration has attached itself at the physical level, the
more difficult it will be for it to detach and return home. And it need not necessarily be a total rejection. How often do we say to someone who wants something from us, “No, not now. Ask me again later.” In other words, we might say to the soul, “Thank you for choosing me, but I’m just not ready for this now. Try again later when I am stronger and more prepared. I love you.”

Again, as a man, I cannot say how any woman should go about making the decision, but I would respectfully suggest that it would be helpful for her to have a conversation with the soul that is knocking on the door.

Why not talk to it and explain why you wish to refuse to be the conduit this time, and let it know that you are truly honored to be asked and that you love it dearly even though you are saying “No” on this occasion. Wish it well and tell it that you hope to connect with it in another way if and when it incarnates. Then, be quiet and listen. Let the soul talk back to you. Maybe it will lovingly release you from the obligation and may tell you why you are so special and why it initially chose you.

Having had this kind of dialogue with you and feeling your love, it might be enough for the soul and satisfy its need to connect with you. Maybe, too, it will enable it to move on and find another woman to incarnate through or to come back later and ask again. No harm done.

That’s the end of Module 16. I hope you found the conversation about death and dying interesting and that it has prepared you to be able to help a client with this very issue.

Next, we move on to Module #17 in which the focus is Relationships.

We’ll see you then.