MASTER COACH TRAINING
Module #8. The ‘Satori’ 7-Step Process
Video Two: Scripts (Face-to-Face Coaching)
Pre-Session Coaching Script
This is necessary in order that the person is able to respond naturally to the questions without having to struggle, at the time, to understand what is required.
“I am going to take you through a series of steps, and for the most part, your role will simply be to repeat what I say to you. In other words, I will prompt you with what to say, just like a minister at a wedding!
“However, the first step does require you to state what it is that you are forgiving _________________ for – what he/she did to you, etc. Also, in this step, I will ask you to say why you are choosing to forgive him/her now. What I am looking for here are things like, “I want to be free,” “I want to go on with my life,” “I am tired of holding on to the past,” I want to feel peace around this issue,” and so on. OK?
“Then in Step Two, I will ask you to imagine that ___________________ is sitting right there in front of you — and I will ask you to tell him/her about the pain you have suffered because of them. Don’t water this down or add spiritual interpretations to this. Confront them fully as a victim. We’ll shift out of that later, but it is essential that we start from where you are (or were when this happened). I will ask you to close your eyes after step one. As you confront __________________ you will probably feel some emotion, and this is perfectly fine. In fact, I would encourage it. I have plenty of tissues nearby.
“The next couple of steps are just repeating things after me. In Step Three you will simply answer ‘Yes’ to the four questions – even if you would rather say ‘No.’ During the fifth step though, I will ask you to do some circular breathing, so I would like to coach you a little on this now – so you will know what to do when I give you that instruction. As you know, Radical Forgiveness is a shift in energy, brought about by a shift in perception. Circular breathing is a way to integrate that energy shift and to anchor the change within
every cell of your body, so you don’t go back to the old pattern.
Circular breathing means breathing straight in and straight out through the mouth, with no pauses in between. [DEMONSTRATE] It involves breathing deeply for a period of time. I am recommending that you do it for about 2 minutes. I will let you
know when two minutes are up by gently tapping you on the knee or some other signal. (Note: If both people are present, both breathe.)
“I think that’s about all I need to say now – unless you have any questions. Do you? Then let’s proceed. Sit comfortably with feet flat on the ground and your hands on your lap.”
The ‘Satori’ (7-STEP) Radical Forgiveness Process
1. STEP ONE: (Eyes open — they’re simply telling you the story.)
Tell me what it is that you are choosing to forgive ____________ for. (When he/she has finished telling the story, tell them to close their eyes and to be sure to keep them closed for the rest of the process.)
OK, so now tell me why you want to forgive him/her, repeating after me, I want to forgive him/her because…. [e.g. I want to go on with my life. I know that holding on is harmful. I want to be free.] Good.
2. STEP TWO:
Now, imagining ______ sitting there in front of you, tell him/her directly about the suffering he/she has caused you. Say it in a loud, clear voice, how you truly felt. Don’t make excuses or overlay spiritual or psychological interpretations. Just say how it was for you and how it felt or feels, even now.
(Let them go on but watch for emotions, then say. . . Even if no feelings happen, say the following anyway when they have finished talking.) When feelings start to come up, point to the place in your body where they seem to be located.
Don’t judge them. Allow yourself to feel them fully now. (Wait until the emotions subside before going on.) give them time to “cook” before going on to collapse and reframe the story.]
3. STEP THREE:
I am now going to ask you 4 questions to which you will answer YES in a loud, clear voice. Here is the first question.
• Even though you may not understand why, are you willing to recognize that your soul has created this situation for your spiritual growth? (YES)
• And do you agree that you were, in fact, getting exactly what you unconsciously wanted from? (YES)
• Are you now able to see that this situation is giving you an opportunity to heal something within you? (YES)
• Are you now, therefore, ready and willing to cancel your contract with _______, and to let go of your unconscious need to stay a victim? (YES)
4. STEP FOUR:
Good. This is going just fine. Extend your hands outwards to _________ and pretend to take his/her hands in yours.
Now, repeat after me: I recognize that even though I may not understand why. . . I have co-created this situation with you… so that we both may grow and learn. I honor the part of you . . . . that has been willing to play this role for my healing. . . and I see you now as a blessing in my life. I honor the part of me . . . . that has been willing to play a role for your healing… and I honor myself …as having been a blessing in your life.” Good, now bring your hands back to your lap.
5. STEP FIVE:
“Now, as you drop into your heart and become fully connected to your Higher Self, you might begin to feel a sensation somewhere in your body — perhaps a tingling, or a pinprick, or a surge of energy, as you begin to surrender to the Love vibration that flows from your Higher Self. Nod your head ‘Yes’ when you feel that sensation somewhere in your body.
[Wait] Good! That’s fine! If you haven’t felt anything yet, that’s fine too. Open your heart fully now, to receive that unconditional love. Begin conscious breathing now, and allow this love to flow
into every part of you, healing all the hurt and pain, knowing that the Higher Self knows exactly what to do to complete the
healing. I will let you know when the two minutes are up but take your time in bringing your breathing back to its normal
rate. [Allow 2 minutes of breathwork only. Both people should breathe if two are present.]
6. STEP SIX:
When you feel ready, extend your hands outward again to ____ and say, “I send unconditional love out to you now. . . I unconditionally love and support you . . . just the way you are . . ., how you have been . . ., and the way you will be in the future. . .. I bless you for giving me the opportunity to heal.”
Now, put your hands over your heart and say after me, “I send unconditional love to myself now. . . just the way I am . . ., how I have been . . ., and the way I will be in the future.”
[If there is a partner who is going to go through the process, leave Step 7 for them both to do at the end.
Go back to Step One and begin again now with the partner. Before you begin with the partner, though, make sure the other person is ready and able to switch roles. It is a good idea to have them stand up and shake it out before proceeding.]
7. STEP SEVEN:
Keeping hold of the person’s hands, repeat after me, “__________, the beautiful, wonderful qualities that I see in you that you reflect back to me are……” Now name as many positive qualities as you can that you see in this person.