Video 2

MASTER COACH TRAINING
Module #10. A Vision for My Life

Video Two: Discover Your Purpose
Referring back to the definition I gave in the earlier video, your purpose can change as you go through life but it should still be in alignment with your vision. So, always check back to your vision to make sure. I also said that whereas your vision is about how you BE, your purpose is more about what you DO.

I have noticed that people who have started to wake up to who they really are and begin to see their lives in spiritual terms, start to let go of the need to find fulfillment in the material world and shift into wanting to be of service to others in some way.
This characteristic shift in one’s priorities once having awakened seems to happen at around age 45 or so and often is accompanied by a decision to change careers. What they have done as a career in the past has been rooted in a world and a way of relating to other people and the environment that they no longer identify with or wish to support. Their values have changed, and in order to be in integrity, they find themselves wanting to contribute in alignment with those values. And, they want to be of service.

A Buddhist monk known to a friend of mine, Darryl Dennis, said something that changed Darryl’s life. He said, “Every person must be given the opportunity to contribute a part of him or herself to
something bigger than him or herself at least once during his or her lifetime. If not, they feel that
their life has been without meaning or purpose.”
Some people have clarity about their purpose while others have very little idea of what that might be. They just know that they want to do something that will give them fulfillment, satisfaction, joy, and a knowing that what they do is of service and of value to others.
As we said in the last video, this might cause a shift in a person’s vision for their life, but only insofar as their world view changes and some priorities shift. As far as they themselves are concerned, they are still who they are and will have largely the same vision for their lives, albeit a somewhat expanded one, with a lot more clarity to boot.

Connecting with our purpose helps us to focus our energy in such a way as to transcend our limited definitions of who we are, and to become empowered to be all that we can be. It enables us to focus on what we might want to manifest in our lives that will, in turn, give meaning to and support us in aligning with our vision and purpose.

Whereas with mission we have no awareness of it, with purpose we get to consciously and unconsciously use our own knowledge, awareness, values, understanding, motivations, talents, and skills to express our purpose.

Finding a way to live that purpose can be challenging. However, you will know when you have found your purpose when you feel infused with joy, passion, and fulfillment in what you are doing in your life. It need not be in how you make your primary living, however. It could be your hobby or some other activity that juices you in this way.

What follows is a method of discovering your purpose which I have found to be simple and effective. (Note that you may have seen this before since it appears in my Radical Manifestation book and my Getting to Heaven on a Harley book.)

Step #1 is to make a list of all your talents, skills, capabilities, interests, and personal qualities that you are aware of.

For example:
That you are creative.
Artistic and a painter.
You are patient.
You’re a good researcher.
Good with people.
Good with children.
A good speaker.
Have a lot of musicianship.
You are academic.
And, you love to dance.
As part of this, ask some people close to you — friends, family, colleagues, etc., what skills, talents, qualities,
and capabilities they see in you and appreciate about you. Make a separate list of these, even if some of
them are duplicates. Make a note of those that you did not recognize in yourself.
Then rate each one on a scale of 0 to 100 according to the level of proficiency that you have in each of the
skills and talents on both lists. Zero is none whatsoever, while 100 would be total mastery. 50 would be
average proficiency. Be as objective as you can about this. And, ask others if necessary.
For example:
Rate your creativity at, say 60
Artistic (as a painter) 40
Patient n/a
Good researcher 40
Good with people n/a
Good with children n/a
Good speaker 30
Musicianship 60
Academic 40

Dance 20

Good leader 50
Friendly n/a
Compassionate n/a
Teaching ability 60
OK, now rate each one of these on a scale of 0 to 100 according to how much passion you have for
expressing each one of the items on the lists. Zero would mean you hate doing it and would never do it by
choice. 100 would mean that it gives you total joy and you resent every moment that you are not doing it. 50
would mean that you don’t feel strongly either way. In other words, you quite enjoy doing it when you are, but
wouldn’t necessarily go out of your way to do it. Be careful not to score them on the basis of how much
approval it gets you. This might feel good, but it is secondary to the feeling that arises simply out of doing it.
One way to check this is to note how you feel in your gut when you say the word or think about expressing
that quality or talent. Is it positive or negative? Does it make you feel good, or not?
Now let’s put the two together to see where there is a match between technical proficiency and passion.
For example, rating them on proficiency and passion:
Proficiency Passion
Creative 70 80
Artistic (painter) 40 95
Good researcher 40 5
Good with people n/a 20
Good with children n/a 60
Good speaker 30 10
Musicianship 60 70
Academic 40 10
Dance 20 40
Good leader 20 20
Friendly n/a 50
Compassion n/a 60
Teaching ability 60 70
Note: Proficiency does not necessarily equate with passion or even enjoyment. The person in the example
above is good academically and good at research but enjoys neither. His or her painting skill is the same
as those two and not great, but he or she shows enormous passion for the activity.
We are now at Step #2 where having established your skills, talents, and accomplishments, and registered
your passion for each of these, you need to select up to 5 items that score high on the passion scale,
irrespective of how much proficiency you have in each one, and then write down how you like to express
them.

For example, Creativity:
I like to express my creativity by exploring new ways of seeing things and expressing my perceptions
visually through painting in all sorts of different media, dance, and music.
Painting:
I love to lose myself in the painting process and in expressing my feelings that way, learn about myself
and the world around me because I see everything in new and exciting ways.
Musicianship:
I love to play the piano and keyboard instruments and to experiment with sounds and harmonies that I
can relate to my painting in a multimedia format.
Teaching Ability:
I love working with children because they are so creative and free when allowed to be so. And, I seem to
be able to bring that out in them.
So, just to recap what we have done so far, Step #1 was to list all your talents and qualities. Step #2 is
where you decide how you like to express these talents and qualities. And, now we come to Step #3 which
is to create a grandiose purpose statement of what you would be achieving or doing if you were expressing
all these talents in the way that would be totally enjoyable to you and where there are no limits on you.
For example, using the data we have produced so far, we could come up with a statement like this:
“My purpose is to use my compassion, my patience, and my ability to inspire children in awakening and
nurturing their creative spirit through expressing my passion for artistic endeavor through painting, dance,
and music as a demonstration to them of the power of the arts to bring joy to millions of people.”
What you need to do now is edit it down to a short, more memorable statement. The above statement
covers all the bases, but it is long and cumbersome. It would be hard to remember. A purpose statement
needs to be something you repeat often, so it should be short, easy to say, and easily memorized.
So, we could edit this down to this:
“My purpose is to inspire all children to free their creative spirit and to find joy in the creative process,
while I, too, soar in my own creative power as an artist.”
You would then check to see if you have it right, by registering how it feels to you. And, you’d keep massaging
it until it feels good like it really fits. If it doesn’t feel wonderful, look again to see if you have put the wrong
thing first. For instance, in this example, the lists show that the real juice was in being the artist, especially
painting, which he or she scored at 95. Children and teaching came in at 60 and 70, respectively. I would
want to ask whether this person was actually selling out by going for what seemed possible or achievable
rather than what was really in his or her heart?

So, we could try it again. Here’s another version of the same thing where the painting becomes the primary
purpose and the teaching of children secondary:
“My purpose is to change the way that millions of people see the world by using my skill as a painter,
musician, and dancer to bring them to a new understanding of reality and to employ my teaching ability
to open the hearts and minds of children to the joy in the creative process.”
And then, edited down:
“My purpose is to change the world through my art by opening people’s eyes to what is meaningful while
freeing the creative spirit in children.”
This version seems more in alignment with his or her real purpose. It doesn’t matter that the proficiency is
not yet very high. That can be attained through training. With that much intention (95% passion), it is
virtually guaranteed!
OK, so take the time to create a vision for your life and a statement of purpose for what you see yourself
doing now and in the future. In module 15 we will be looking at how all this will determine your success as
a Radical Living Master Coach.
In the meanwhile, in Module number 11 we’ll take at the relationship between Radical Living and Happiness.
We’ll see you then.