MASTER COACH TRAINING
Module #8. The ‘Satori’ 7-Step Process
Video One: Introduction
This is the most potent of all the processes we do I think, short of working with me directly in a workshop setting. As such, it can produce some emotional reactions. Given your level of experience now, having done Part One, I don’t think it is anything you can’t handle working one-on-one with a client or even with a relatively small group. It can be done by phone or Skype, but if possible, it is better done in person. You’re better able to support the person that way. The variants of the ‘Satori’ 7-Step Process are as follows:
1. Doing it One-on-One with a Client in your Office
The time to use it with a client is when you have come to a place where the story has been told, and you’ve brought him or her to a place where they’re beginning to collapse the story and are willing to shift into the Radical Forgiveness perspective and the reframe.
You never quite know how long it’s going to take, but it can be anywhere from 20 minutes to 30 minutes and really depends on how much they get into their feelings. It should not be rushed, so I would normally allow 30 minutes, plus some time for integration afterward, say a total of 45 minutes. This is necessary because
there is some breathwork involved and even though it is only two minutes, some people might need time to get grounded after doing that.
You will need two chairs since you will ask the person to imagine the perpetrator sitting in the empty chair in front of him or her. You will be sitting to one side of the client. You can also have a surrogate sitting in the chair opposite the client. I’ve found this works quite well when the person feels victimized by a group, or a race, a corporation, or even God. The victim has someone sitting there as a representative of that entity, and it really seems to help.
But, this is an extremely potent process, as I say, and I encourage you to get proficient and comfortable in facilitating it. But, you must NOT give the written script to the client or to anyone else.
And, please do not change any of the wording in this process, except to adapt it to male or female, and to make Steps One and Two jive with their own story if necessary, or to adapt the process for use by phone, as indicated in the alternative phone script. Other than that, though, don’t change anything, especially Step Five. That step is very carefully worded and is loaded with hypnotic suggestions, so say it exactly as it is — even though it does seem a little bit awkward.
When you get to Step Four, make your questioning precise and exactly to the point in a somewhat commanding voice. Even though you are asking them if they’re willing, your voice should indicate that you are definitely expecting a ‘Yes’ response. Don’t be conversational.
2. Doing it By Phone, Skype, or Zoom You will have to make sure that your client is where he or she cannot be seen or overheard, so he or she is able to feel safe and neither observed nor likely to be interrupted. Cell phones must be off. At the same time,
though, it is preferable if your client is not alone in the house, just in case he or she needs emotional support or has any abreaction to the two minutes of breathwork. Other than that, you ask them to have an empty chair in front of them just the same, and you take them through the process. At the end, make sure they are
grounded before going out or using any equipment.
3. Doing it With a Couple in Your Office If both victim and perpetrator are present, you would have them sit knee to knee in upright chairs. You would sit to one side looking at the one going through the process, of course. If only one is forgiving, the other
simply listens and only responds by saying Tthank you,” at the end of the process. Nothing else. But, if they do wish to forgive each other, you would take each one through the process separately, one after the other, not concurrently. They would also need to agree not to have any further discussion about the issue afterward,
at least for 24 hours.
It also helps to have them imagine a ‘container’ between them into which all ‘negativity’ expressed in Steps One and Two is dumped. You might even place something there, like a paper grocery bag or a small garbage bin to help them stay conscious of that idea. That way the other person doesn’t take it on. Have the other person put the rose up, too (as described in Chapter 29 of the Radical Forgiveness book), and suggest that they put an arm across their body to protect their solar plexus chakra.
If both parties are going through the process, stop the first person after Step Six and then do the other person. When the second person is complete up to Step Six, switch back to the first person and have him or her do Step Seven, followed by the second person.
Working with the victim only is every bit as effective as working with both, and frankly, I prefer to do it this way unless I’m really certain the person receiving the forgiveness is in the right space to receive it directly.
Remember, when we do this work, the other person feels it whether they are present or not, so it is not absolutely necessary to have the perpetrator present.
4. Doing it With a Group
This process is very effective when done in a group. You pair people off and tell them to find some space in the room and, in upright chairs, sit knee to knee. Energetically, it’s best that the two people do not know each other. They are not going to speak out loud very much, and certainly will not give voice to their story, but
each person has to imagine, with their eyes closed the whole time, that the person sitting in the chair opposite is their victimizer. So, don’t let husbands and wives or friends pair up. And, don’t let them do this as a forgiveness exercise on themselves. You may have to help a few of them to find someone that they need to forgive. The script of what you need to tell them is given to you below, and the exact script for the group process is provided also.
5. Doing it as a Group Healing Session
Now, this can be a very dramatic session. I have done it both as a racial healing session and a gender healing session. The way this works is that you essentially do it as a couple session, with one man
representing all men (the masculine), shall we say, and the other woman representing all women (the feminine). The men in the room stand behind the one man doing the process, while the women stand
behind the one woman doing the process.
The man representing the masculine speaks out on behalf of all men what he feels he needs to forgive the women for. The men in the room silently connect with the pain of the man. It can be personal for him or more general, but he should be willing to accuse the woman representing all women for something that has hurt
or damaged the masculine. Then the woman accuses the man representing the masculine for all that men have done to women, but without defending against what the man has said previously.
The women connect with the pain of the feminine as expressed by the one woman. You then take the couple through the rest of the 7-Step Process, one after the other. And, when you get to the
4 questions, the whole group of men or the women say ‘Yes.’ When you tell them to repeat after me, all those of the same gender give voice to it. They all do the two minutes of breathwork.
I have done this with blacks and whites, Jews and non-Jews and once, in Australia between aboriginals and whites. It was incredibly powerful in all those cases. The scripts follow on the next few pages.
You won’t want to talk too much about the process itself, and you certainly don’t want to go into any analysis at that point. Don’t attempt any reframes. Just trust the process implicitly knowing that the energy has been moved and the healing cycle completed. Simply reconnect with the client and say — “How was that? How
do you feel now? Is there anything you wish to share about your experience?”
Suggest that they might want to journal the experience when they get home and to notice whether anything happens in the next few days which might be attributable to the shift in energy. Ask that they make a note of those and bring them to the next session. If they don’t seem to want another session, at least arrange to have a paid 30-minute telephone session by way of a follow-up to this session.
Make sure they are grounded before they leave.
What follows in the next video is three versions of the script that you use to take people through the Satori 7-Step Process, one for when you are working face-to-face with the client, another for doing it over the phone and, finally, when you’re doing it with a group. There is also a video of me demonstrating doing it face-to-face with a client and doing it with a group, so you’ll be in good shape to do it in either context and do it well.