MASTER COACH TRAINING
Module #6. Teaching the Method
Video One: Types of Presentations
It is good to know the difference between the various terms used for a presentation so you can be clear as to what people might expect.
So, first of all, # 1 is a Lecture or Talk.
Now, this is where you give a formal prepared speech, with maybe some questions afterward, but no audience participation other than that. You come on, make your presentation, and that’s more or less it. Lectures are usually intellectual in content, designed to impart information or to present a particular point of view.
Now, these might be done at things like Rotary Clubs, Kiwanis, etc.; after-dinner presentations; doing the lesson at a church, perhaps; ‘a lunch & learn’ at a corporation; speaking at expos, and so on. And, typically, they would be limited to maybe 30 to 45 minutes maximum, and are usually free.
So, you might want to think of other opportunities you might create or know of, where you might be given a chance to speak. Doing these free talks is a great way to get clients and to create a following. So, always have a card and make sure it has your Facebook business address or website if you have one.
Now let’s look at Seminars. Now, these are usually of fairly short duration, up to 2 hours max, but more informal than a lecture with more audience participation and interaction. The usual thing is that you give a short introduction and then open it to discussion, or have some kind of interaction with the audience. These are likely to be the kind of evening
presentations that you might make at a bookstore, a church, or some other venue. The format is usually to outline the material for, say, half of the session, and then offer them the opportunity to experience the 13- Steps, which is always a good idea. Then, if there is time you can open it up for questions.
Now let’s go on to #3 which is a Class.
A class is more likely to be a program that runs a few weeks and has a prescribed set of learning objectives associated with it, as with the 10-week class outlined later in this Module.
Now, let me give you a few teaching tips here, right off the bat. First of all, don’t tell too much when you are doing one of these talks.
For the longest time, I would pack into a talk or a seminar all that I knew, thinking that I had to tell everything.
The problem was that they got so much out of it that they didn’t feel the need to come to my workshops! So, make a point of withholding some information which you can tell them they will get in the class that you are running. Just give them enough to whet their appetite and get them to the point where they want more, so they either come up and talk to you about your workshop or your sessions, or whatever they want to know
about it and will then eventually sign up for a workshop.
Tip #2 is to Sell YOU.
Use the presentations to sell YOU first and then try to get them intrigued by the idea of Radical Forgiveness and/or Radical Manifestation and wanting to know more about the Tipping Method. Get them to like you.
That’s the main thing when you are doing a short talk like this. Then you can enroll them in coming to the event that you are offering. Then, of course, don’t forget to give everyone your contact information.
Another tip is sell them on the Benefits.
Try to make your presentation about all the BENEFITS of Radical Forgiveness and/or Radical Manifestation. Make it all about them. More happiness, more peace, less stress, better relationships, more energy, more money, better life, new relationship, new job, and so on. And, have stories that show what miracles occur and how simple it is to create them with Radical Forgiveness and Radical Manifestation.
Make sure you tell them about yourself and your relationship with the Institute when you were trained, etc. Also, be sure to make it clear that Radical Forgiveness is not a therapy or counseling, and that they never have to go digging up the past. Tell them that you can show them ways that they can use the technology of Radical Forgiveness to solve their own problems easily and quickly, and how they can use the technology of Radical Manifestation to create their future.
Now, dealing with Questions is the bit that a lot of coaches find a bit scary when they first start.
But, you will find the same kind of questions crop up all the time, and so you’ll develop a way of having answers prepared in your mind before you do the lectures and talks. It’s one of the advantages of doing the book study group during the training period. Those are precisely the questions that will likely get raised in a seminar or talk.
But, connected with this, don’t be shy about saying, “I DON’T KNOW.”
It’s much better to do this than try to bluff your way through it. People like you for it when you can say, “Well, you know, I haven’t had that one before, and I am not quite sure how to answer it. Let me think about that for a while. I’ll come back to you on that, if I may?” But then, of course, you mustn’t forget to actually do that and come back to them on it.
Now, the problem is that people will always go the extreme with their questions. They go to the extreme cases to try to undermine the concept of Radical Forgiveness if they are really skeptical about it. Almost invariably they will go to Hitler as an example of how it can’t be perfect that he murdered six thousand Jews, or they’ll bring up child abuse. Nearly always they bring that up.
Well, I always answer these types of questions in the same way by saying things like, “Yes. Thank you for asking that question. And, I really hear what you are saying. And, I feel much the same way a lot of the time, believe me. It’s not easy, given the level of our awareness of the spiritual big picture, to see the perfection in such situations. But, here’s how I do it. I see Divine purpose working in so many different ways in my own life, and that of other people I do work with that can I only assume that it must be a universal principle that it works at all levels. In other words, it either works for everything or nothing. And, that’s how I hold it, and it seems to work that way OK. The thing is, we only have to be willing to entertain it as a possibility. We don’t have to believe it. So, I just invite you to just be open to the possibility and
leave it at that. OK?
The other one you will always get when you are teaching Radical Forgiveness is that this model appears to give you carte-blanche to do anything you want because you say that there is no wrong or right. Which means that we’re not accountable for anything.
Well, let me refer you to Chapter 4 in the Radical Forgiveness book for details on this one, but I will just say that as soon as you get a question like this, you should immediately go into the Two Worlds explanation and give the binoculars demonstration, where you show that how we see something is determined by which lens we are looking through.
Now, if people feel safe enough with you, they might ask a question that is related to their own personal situation — almost invariably a relationship issue. If there’s the least possibility you that might be getting into something likely to create some emotional reaction, it’s best to back off by saying something like this:
“Listen, I have no way of knowing right now what the lesson might be for you, but I can tell you this: If you just allow yourself to be open to the possibility that what is happening now to you might actually be what you need to have happen — for whatever reason — you will find things will start to work out, and you will feel more peaceful about it. Would you be willing to just be willing, perhaps, to see it that way?”
You will find that they will be satisfied with that and they will feel some peace even right then, so long as you say it with love and assurance in your voice.
Remember, though, in the end, it all comes back to that and your beingness. If you come from love and humility, it will all work out perfectly. If you come from ego with a high need to look good and be the guru, you’ll probably have some interesting learning experiences! So, just be humble and be real. Be yourself.
So, that’s it for this video. The next one is about structuring the presentation. So, we’ll see you there.