MASTER COACH TRAINING
Module 16. Death, Tragedy, and Other Illusions
Video One: The Radical Forgiveness Bucket List
Welcome to Video #1 of Module 16 which is about death, tragedy, and other illusions. This video is about the Radical Forgiveness Bucket List.
Throughout this course, we have asserted that negative, toxic energy, whether it be of a mental, emotional, or spiritual nature is very bad for your health. Well, the fact is that it is equally bad for your death.
Contrary to what most people think, if you die while still holding resentment or other forms of non-forgiveness, you will likely take it with you. You will not be free of it. You will probably have to deal with it on the other side, and there’s no guarantee that it will be any easier. Your energetic connection with the one that you haven’t
forgiven yet will not be as direct as when you were both on the earth plane, making it much harder to break free.
Not only will you be burdened by the crappy energy you take with you, so will the person you haven’t forgiven, assuming it mattered to them. Any amends that they might have made while you were alive are now impossible. It becomes unfinished business, and that makes it even more toxic than it was before.
What we are strongly suggesting you do, and what you might help your clients do, is have them begin the Radical Forgiveness process immediately with those who are alive now to allow both themselves and the person they need to forgive, a more peaceful transition when the time comes of each of them. And it is not too late to do it with those who have already transitioned to the other side. It just requires an awareness that that person is not dead at all and in fact remains connected to them energetically. (We’ll deal with the issue
of death being an illusion in the next Video.)
At one point in our Radical Forgiveness healing intensive known as the Miracles Workshop, when everyone in the group has gone through a forgiveness process, not infrequently on an already deceased parent, they do one hour of ‘Satori’ breathwork. In this, they all lie on the floor with their eyes closed, music playing, and
engage in conscious circular breathing. In effect, it is intentional hyperventilating.
Afterward, it is not at all unusual for a number of people to report that during the session they were contacted by the spirit being of the deceased person they had been forgiving beforehand in the workshop. They often report that the spirit-being expressed deep gratitude for the energy of forgiveness having been directed
towards them and were ecstatic and full of joy at having been released from the attachment mutually agreed upon during the human experience.
What happens in the breathwork session, then, is that the cord is cut and that energy is dispersed. The person doing the Radical Forgiveness here on the earth plane feels a sense of freedom and joy, while the spirit is released from the bondage and attachment to this vibration and is free to move on.
The lesson here is that both parties suffer when one dies and the other is left behind with unhealed energy of resentment, anger, jealousy, sadness, guilt, and so on. Both are held captive.
This being the case, it is obvious that we all stand to gain much by doing all the forgiveness work we can with those who are still alive, as well as on those who are now dead. We need to do it while we still have breath in our body and the mental capacity to remember who it is we need to forgive and why.
So, if you have someone in mind who died without healing an outstanding feud, disagreement, wound, or whatever else might have disrupted the love between you, you owe it to yourself and to that departed person to do the Radical Forgiveness process around that issue immediately. If your client has someone with whom they had a grievance who died without the grievance being resolved, you owe it him or her to encourage them to use the tools of Radical Forgiveness to clear the energy once and for all, for all the reasons we have just discussed.
I doubt whether there is a person on the planet who does not have some reason to forgive their parents, and this is no less true if the parents are already dead. The parent/child relationship is characterized by conflict.
Remember, we chose our parents to give us our first and most intense experience of separation. If they are dead, do a worksheet on them. If they’re still alive, do a worksheet on them. Clear as much remaining energy as you can.
If you are a parent yourself, you may need to forgive your kids for some things as well, like their rebellion as teenagers, or resistance to your rules, drug use, moving away, and depriving you of access to your grandchildren, and so on. We don’t often talk about forgiving our own children, but in my experience, the pain and hurt that they can inflict is every bit as equal to the abuse children suffer from their parents.
Another reason to forgive everyone and clear up any remaining issues with family and friends before you die is that it will give you a better chance of dying peacefully and without pain. I first observed this phenomenon when working with cancer patients in the 90s.
As I have pointed out in previous modules, cancer patients are notorious for holding onto resentment and grief and seldom ever forgive on their own. The tension that this pent-up energy creates in the body is enormous. It stands to reason then, that if the body is tight and full of long-held emotional energy, death is
likely to be painful and less than peaceful, because holding on tight is, for cancer patients, the norm. I am quite sure that this holds true for anyone who dies while still refusing to release their negative emotions and beliefs. If you hold onto that stuff, your body will hold on too, and death will not come easy.
Just the other day, out of the blue I received this e-mail. The man was not known to me, but he had read my book and wanted to share this experience. He gave me permission to share it. It goes like this:
“My father passed away a year ago. His health had been degenerating (he was in the end stages of Parkinson’s). Shortly before he came home from the hospital to begin hospice, the social worker at the hospital asked him if he needed anything. My Dad was having difficulty communicating at that point, but he mimed opening a book. The social worker asked him if he wanted a book. He held up two fingers. She asked, “Two books?” He shook his head and pointed at me and held up two fingers. It occurred to me that every time I came to visit him at the hospital, I had my tablet and my copy of Radical Forgiveness. I picked up the book from the table where I left it and showed it to him. He nodded and looked relieved.
He’d never read the book as far as I know, but somehow, having the book with him seemed to comfort him. I read to him from the book during his final days. I think he needed to believe that he was forgiven or that we forgave him.”
Thank you, David.
Clearly, David’s father had left it to the very last minute to do what he needed to do. Something within him created the opportunity to heal something before he transitioned by having David bring in my book and read it to him.
But why wait until the last minute, like David’s father? You need to point out to your clients that no one with any sense at all waits until the day before they die to make a will. So why not do the forgiveness work in advance of either their own death or that of the person against whom they hold a grievance, or both. Death will be
easier and less painful for both when their times come. Making a forgiveness list and working one’s way through it is no different than making a will or creating a bucket list of all we want to do before we die.
So, let this be a big part of your client’s forgiveness process, especially those who are facing imminent death themselves or are still grieving over one or more people that were close to them who have died.
Having told them that death is an illusion and that they should do worksheets on those who are on the other side, convince them to work with you over a period of time to get to the bottom of their forgiveness bucket list. Tell them for their own sake and for those who are important to them, to do the forgiveness work now,
before the grim reaper comes knocking.
In the next video, we look at how suffering the pain of losing a loved one can be reduced very significantly when we learn the truth about death — that it is not real.
We’ll see you there.