The Radical Grieving Assumptions

Assumption #1 of 8: Death Is Not Real
Notes: Our souls are immortal. When we incarnate, we take on a body in order to be able to experience separation emotionally. That was the purpose of coming here. Without a body, we would have been unable to feel the emotions. Without a body, we could not expand into Love. Our physical body is a vehicle we rent for a fixed time that helps us to do what we need to do to live life on the physical plane. When the time comes to revert to being solely in the World of Spirit, we drop the vehicle off and return home. Therefore death is an illusion. It just looks like death to us because all we can see is a body no longer inhabited.

[This from the book, Expanding into Love, Chapter 26.] This is what Jesus was trying to teach us in the Resurrection. There is no such thing as death. Not everyone does it quite like Jesus, of course, but millions of people have experienced a departed loved one appearing in a less-than-physical form (but unmistakably real nevertheless), and have had conversations with them. It is not at all uncommon. Others have received messages from people who have died, either directly from within themselves or via a medium, which could not have come from anyone else. In fact, I doubt there are many people alive today who do not believe that death is just a transition between one realm of existence and another. The evidence for it is irrefutable. Much as it tries to, science cannot prove anything to the contrary. Some of the theories that scientists come up with are infinitely more outrageous, stupid, and improbable than the ones they try to refute. This is not surprising since science is, by definition, the study of the physical universe. It is not equipped to even begin looking at what is essentially mystical and non-physical. It simply doesn’t have the tools.

Jesus is not alone in having cheated death. My friend Mellen Thomas Benedict died as a result of a brain tumor and was clinically dead for no less than an hour and a half, with no vital signs whatsoever. When he awoke after all that time. having had a dramatic NDE, the tumor had gone. He was cured.

Lyll Watson, a respected scientist and biologist wrote a book in the 1974 called, The Romeo Error. It was a treatise on the nature of life and death. If you can find a copy, I would recommend it. It will change the way you see death. He gave many documented examples of people waking up after having been dead for one or two days. He cites the example of, and I quote, “one Nicephorous Glycas, the Greek Orthodx Bishop of Lesbos, caused great consternation among his devout followers. After two whole days lying in state in his episcopal vestments in the church at Methymni, he suddenly sat bolt upright on the Metropolitatan throne, glared at the line of mourners passing by, and demanded to know what they were staring at.” In another account in 1964, he writes, “The postmortem operations at a New York mortuary was disrupted just as the first cut was being made when the patient leaped up and seized the surgeon by his throat. This doctor paid for the error with his life — he died of shock.”

Assumption #2: There Is No Such Thing As An Untimely Death
Notes: The timing of our death is not a mistake. We choose the moment to go home, and it may have been decided before we incarnated. Who hasn’t heard the saying, “When your number’s up, that’s it”? The implication here is clear. But we also have free will, so we can change it if we want to if, for instance, some opportunity arises that looks as if it would serve our soul’s purpose to hang around for a little longer.

Accounts of near-death experiences (NDEs), numbering in the many thousands to date, all say essentially the same thing; that the Light says, “It’s not quite time yet. There’s still more for you to do yet on the human plane.” (Of course we don’t hear about those who are not turned back. Probably what they get is, “Welcome home, mission accomplished.”) Those who do come back all say that the fear of death has disappeared completely because it is clear that death is not real but simply a transition.

To be blunt about it, so what if we die at 25 rather than 85? Nothing is wasted. What we learned in those 25 years we take back with us anyway to use in our next life. Life goes on. It is a continuum. Whatever it was we came into the experience we achieved in those 25 years, so we went back home to get ready for the next assignment. Why waste time hanging about any longer?

Assumption #3: Death Is Simply Part of Life
Notes: Death needs to be embraced as one of the processes of life. We all have to go through it one way or another. Give up the idea that death is tragic. We should try to go through it ourselves as consciously as possible. We need to think about and plan for it. We can fight against it if we feel there’s more to do with what’s left of our lives while, but when the time arrives, we should surrender to it, and have no fear of it.

Assumption #4: Death Is Not to Be Feared
Notes: In my book, Getting to Heaven on a Harley, opens with a story about a guy who dies in a motorcycle crash in the first paragraph. At first, he doesn’t know he’s dead but in time gets to realize it and begins to think about moving into the Light. But he meets another discarnate soul who has been dead a long time but is too scared about going towards the light because his religion has instilled in him the idea that because he had done some bad things in his life he would be severely judged and ultimately sent to Hell. Understandably, he was reluctant to go. So he was hanging around the site where he was killed in a car crash, sitting there beside the plastic flowers, now faded, that his family and friends had put there as a makeshift shrine. (See Assumption #7 No Strings Attached. Such shrines create strings.) So Steve talks him into it and after some adventures went up the tunnel of light on a Harley motorcycle and each went through their life reviews. No one went to Hell because there is no Hell. Both experienced nothing but unconditional Love.

Each religion has its own set of assumptions about death and what happens afterward. None make any more sense than the other and certainly no more than the myth we are advancing in this program and in my book, Expanding into Love. Same with atheists. Their idea that once we die that’s the end of the story is just as valid as any other belief system and no less true.

However, I do believe we have some good evidence through people’s accounts of near-death experiences (NDEs) to suggest that there is nothing to fear whatsoever. All of them speak of experiencing intense Love and acceptance without a trace of judgment. They describe going through a sort of life review where they get to see their whole life revealed in a few moments and were able to see the effects of their actions. But not one person mentions anything about there being a Hell. It just does not exist except in the mind of those down here who want to use it to control others. There’s no mention of being divided up between those who were good and those who were bad. Everything had its purpose and nothing wrong happened. In short, Love was all there was.

Assumption #5: You Take Your Baggage With You
Notes: I often feel sorry for those who commit suicide simply in order to escape because I think as soon as they get to the other side, they will find that nothing has changed. They are just the same as they were before, at least for a while, with all the exact same problems. This probably remains the case until they have healed what they didn’t heal on this side.

We take all our problems with us because our problems are all in our minds. As one person who has had an NDE said to me, “The other side is not all it’s cracked up to be!” Whatever your emotional state is before you die, that’s how it will be for you on the other side. Bummer! What about paradise?

But, this is not to say that you cannot consciously choose when or how to make your transition. But you would need to make sure you had done all the forgiveness work you needed to do, made peace with everyone and everything, and generally come to a place of completion before doing so. Then, when you get to the other side, you would be clear of all the old baggage you accumulated while here.

There’s something to be said for choosing your time and manner of your passing, so long as you do it with reverence, with prayer, and with due regard for those you leave behind. The aboriginal people of Australia considered the death experience to be the high point of their life and they would designate a certain day as a good day to die.’ They would go out, find a spot, shut their body down and leave. That simple. But they prepared themselves for it all through their lives by how they lived.

Assumption #6: Forgiveness Will Ease the Pain
The obvious point here then is that if we want our death to be as painless as possible and as smooth as possible, not to mention being free of emotional baggage when we get to the other side, we need to do all our forgiveness work well before the moment of death. This is why we include Radical Dying as one of the strategies in Radical Living.

Assumption # 7: No Strings Attached
Notes: We must let the person go. Holding on to them causes intense pain and anguish. The dying person ends up trying to resist death just to please the ones holding on, often forcing doctors to do everything possible even when it is obvious that death is the best thing for that person.

Holding on even after death is not good for that soul either. Holding onto the ideas and beliefs that constitute the suffering described in the video, keeping resentments alive and nursing grievances creates chords or strings that hold that soul back and keeps you stuck. Making a shrine or memorial by the side of the road where someone died is another way to hold them back. It acts as a hook. Psychics often say they notice souls sitting by them as if they don’t know they are dead.

Assumption #8: Reincarnation is Real
Though not proven scientifically, the circumstantial evidence for it is difficult to refute. So I choose to assume it is real and that we do go around and around on the wheel of karma until we have learned enough to become enlightened. It gives us a good rationale for living a ‘good’ life knowing that what goes around comes around. And it would be a good Radical Manifestation exercise to plan your next incarnation. What would you want your next life to look like? How about being an ant? Just kidding.