Whenever we set out on a healing path that involves getting in touch with our feelings, even if only superficially, we frequently get the jitters. It is perfectly natural that we do. Here are two reasons why:
1. If we have, up to this point, dealt with our feelings about certain issues by using one or more of the defense mechanisms like suppression, repression, denial, sublimation, and projection, we are bound to feel anxious at the prospect of dropping our defenses and letting the feelings come to the surface. It means becoming vulnerable, even if only to ourselves. And that’s scary.
2. We may already be aware of the strength and intensity of our feelings and fear that, if we allow ourselves the freedom to express them, we may lose control or end up feeling much worse than at the beginning. We fear we might say or do things that could hurt people. We might also feel guilt and shame about having these feelings.
Both of these can apply to many feelings you may have towards the person who has died or the people close to them, so it is not surprising that you would have doubts and jitters about doing this Radical Grieving program. You might feel that you’d be opening Pandora’s box.
It really isn’t that bad, though, but if the doubt and fear are more than you know how to cope with, or you simply want to talk it over with a Radical Forgiveness Coach, we would recommend that you select a coach from those listed on the web site and book a session with them. One session might be all you need just to settle your doubts about doing it.
On the other hand, you might find it helpful to have a session or two during the time you are working on the program. At the very least you would have someone to call if you did feel unsettled.