Much of our pain is our being invested, not so much in that facts of what happened, but in our interpretations about what happened — our story. When something happens, especially when we are very young, we often make it about us, and then compound the pain by making assumptions and interpretations about it that color our whole life, and life in general. Since the pain is often more that we can bear, we repress it. The truth is we were not entitled to those assumptions. They are invariably wrong. And yet we defend them vigorously.
Grandad died, — he abandoned me.
My mother divorced my Dad — she took my father away from me.
My husband cheated on me — I must no longer be sexually attractive.
I was sexually abused — all men will hurt me.
My father was emotionally unavailable to me — I’ll never be enough. And so on.
Choose a story from your distant past, preferably one from childhood, that you might still be operating from. Separate the fact from interpretation and then indicate, on a scale of 1-100, how attached you are to your interpretations. You measure this by how resistant you are about giving them up. 20 would indicate that you have hardly any resistance to giving them up, 60 would indicate high resistance and 100 would be total resistance.
NOTE: A common mistake is to write a whole list of things in the first column of the Centrifuge worksheet. This often causes some confusion. So, do the exercise on one item only, please.
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