9. Who am I Now?

This refers to the strategy you use to get love and approval, to manipulate others and basically get your needs met. It is a formula you have used since childhood based on what features of your personality your parents (mainly your mother) approved of, warmed to or found most endearing. Realizing this worked, you adopted it as your way of getting what you want.

Pick three personal qualities you feel you still use in this way.

My winning formula I use a lot to get others to give me what I want – e.g., attention, approval, favors etc., is:

This should be obvious, but we sometimes deny, hide or minimize our natural talents and skills, even from ourselves. We may have had them devalued or squashed by parents, siblings or teachers at some time in the past. However, it is important that you claim these now because you will use them in a supplementary program when you go through the process of discovering your life purpose and creating a purpose statement to live by.

I have a natural talent for:

I have developed the following skills and specialisms:

Note: Since I do feel that the social class you were born into has a great bearing on who you think you are and your attitudes, especially towards money, this is what I wrote in the instruction manual for the Online Radical Money Program:

“There is no question that social class and money are closely linked. The class into which you are born and raised will have a great bearing on your money consciousness, even if you have become socially mobile (hopefully upwards) since then.

The link between money and class varies from country to country. In America, for example, the link is relatively strong. It is an essential part of the American dream that anyone, no matter where they come from, can become prosperous through hard work and perseverance. Therefore, anyone who “makes it” in America is well-thought of and can easily rise up to the next class. What class you are in does not limit your income potential.

That is not true for England. In one sense the linkage is weak in that “having money” in England is much less important than other factors in determining your social class. Where you went to school, how you speak, your family connections, what your father did for a living, etc., mean a lot more than how much money you have. Worse yet, they are factors that follow you throughout your life, irrespective of future income. Paradoxically, however, what social class you are in has a very strong influence over one’s expectations of how much money you are likely to earn. It is very subtle and complicated, but the class system has a great effect on people’s money consciousness and it is much more difficult to overcome than in America.

Even in America, the terms ‘Working Class,’ ‘Blue Collar,’ and even ‘Middle Class’ connote certain ideas of the likely income levels of each. The vast majority of those in these categories, especially the first two, are likely to be people with “jobs” as opposed to being in business for themselves. And we all know that very few people get rich working a job all their life. (Some CEOs excepted.)

Each social class has a “collective money consciousness.” This means there are an agreed set of beliefs, attitudes, expectations and limitations that everyone in that class holds and subscribes to about work and money; albeit unconsciously. Anyone who steps outside of that collective ideal will experience reactions from others to a greater or lesser degree.

We could go on and on about this topic. But the bottom line is that you need to have an awareness of the degree to which your social class has had an effect on your money consciousness and your overall identity as a person. If it has been very positive and supportive of your having wealth and high levels of income, be grateful. If it has had a tendency to keep you limited, you need to decide what it is you have to do to counteract it. Hopefully without losing friends and creating tension within your family by appearing to be “moving away from your roots,” or becoming “superior,” or “better than.” Moving up the social ladder can definitely press some loyalty buttons with friends and family.”

Use the following worksheet to assess your money/class relationship. Then determine how to change it in your own mind, if that seems necessary.

The Primary Factors Determining Your Social Class:

1. Fathers Work (or Mothers if she was the main breadwinner)

Father’s Educational Level

Make an assessment of the social class you were born into and write a brief description of it.

How much of that class structure and consciousness still lives in you?

How Different are You Now from Your Father’s Generation?

Your Work Now

Your Educational Level

Describe How You Have Changed:

Of the following values, place a check mark in front of the ones which are, for you, the most important?

Check the ones you would want to see in a partner, business partner, colleague or friend.

It might surprise you to learn that there are basically two types of sexual personality. One type is driven by a fear of rejection and the other by a fear of intimacy. The one type attracts the other which leads to difficulties, but it is only when each is at the extreme end of the continuum between one and the other that the trouble arises in relationship. This is further discussed in the Radical Empowerment Program, as well as providing an in-depth quiz to establish where you fit on the scale and how to modify it if necessary. In the meanwhile:

How sensitive are you to even the least sign of rejection?

To what degree are you normally inclined to withdraw from or even avoid prolonged physical contact?

People really come alive when they become passionate about something. An entrepreneur is many times more likely to succeed in creating a wonderful business if they have a lot of passion for what it is they are offering over someone who who lacks it.

People are magnetized towards those who have passion for what they doing. Such people don’t need to market themselves. People come to them, drawn by the energy that comes from passion.

Where is your passion? What are you passionate about? It doesn’t have to be something big or spectacular. You might be the only person in the world who is passionate about a particular thing. It doesn’t matter. People will still be attracted to you.

What I am passionate about is:

No one has immortalized the power of having a dream than Martin Luther King. His I Have a Dream speech reminded us all that if we have a dream it can become our reality if we believe in it and keep moving towards it.
Do you have a dream?

What is Your Dream?

Are you currently living your dreams?

If you are not currently living your dreams, Why not?

Is your dreams still alive?

When will you give your dreams new life?

Have you given it up in favor of safety, money, or something else like that?

What exactly was it that stopped you from living your dream?

Who killed your dream?

While this program has been about helping you come to a place of greater self-acceptance, you really cannot be at peace with yourself if you are holding onto resentment, hurt, anger, grief and pain over things that have happened in the past.

Maintaining a feeling or perception of yourself as being emotionally wounded or as a victim weighs heavily on you and drags you down. Blaming and making other people responsible for your peace and happiness is dis-empowering and lowers your vibration. The quickest and easiest way to release yourself from this burden and the associated toxicity is Radical Forgiveness. (Information about this and how to achieve it is provided in the final Report.)

Equally, blaming yourself and indulging in repetitive bouts of self-recrimination over something you did in the past that you regret is just as bad. Radical Self-Forgiveness is the best way to put a stop to this pattern once and for all. (More on this, too, in the Report.)

Type in your Forgiveness List in the space provided: