The International Institute for Radical Forgiveness and Leadership (IIRFL) has been borne out of the Institute for Radical Forgiveness, which was developed by Colin Tipping in 1997. In 2018, Colin chosen Godfrey O’Flaherty to be the Custodian and owner of the Radical Forgiveness work. Godfrey has bought all the Radical Forgiveness Intellectual Property, as well as the business of Radical Forgiveness, as a Global Enterprise from Collin Tipping.
Our Mission
The Institute’s mission is to raise consciousness through expanding forgiveness across the globe. The IIRFL is the official international body which will govern all the work of Radical Forgiveness, globally.
IIRFL Around the World
Radical Forgiveness has been translated into 9 languages across 51 countries. The IIRFL accredit and register coaches across the globe, to add to its already thriving body of coaches and students.
Additionally, IIRFL will continue to expand its global reach, as it recently set up the Africa Institute Affiliate for IIRFL. The Africa Institute will work throughout the continent in the field of forgiveness and as a bridge-building institution for individuals, organizations and communities.
The Future
Training and Development
Under the direction of Godfrey O’Flaherty, we are establishing a Centre for Research, to focus on coaching research about the impact of forgiveness and healing of the body, mind and soul. The Institute is in the process of refreshing our current Radical Forgiveness Coaching and developing other future programs, including:
- revamping the existing Radical Forgiveness Master Coaching program;
- developing an MSc program in transpersonal psychology, based on the Radical Forgiveness body of knowledge;
- creating a Master of Art (MA) in Radical Forgiveness Coaching, which will be a step up from our Master Coaching Program; and
- intending to develop Doctoral programs in those two fields in the future
The Colin Tipping Foundation
The IIRFL will house the Colin Tipping Foundation, in loving memory of Colin and his incredible work. This foundation will be a philanthropic organization, managed on behalf of funders. It aims to create projects and programs run under the Radical Forgiveness banner that will facilitate emotional healing around the world. Using the Radical Forgiveness methodologies, projects will include developing youth leaders, addressing gender base discrimination and guiding communities globally on dealing with social challenges. (Using the Radical Forgiveness technology, example projects include developing youth leaders, empowering woman and dealing with social challenges faced by communities around the world.)
Education
IIRFL seeks to play a more active role in the education space. We aim to equip the youth globally, especially from disadvantageous communities to deal effectively with the challenges these communities face. With this aim in mind we strive to contribute constructively to the emotional wellbeing of young learners, throughout the world. The Colin Tipping philanthropy foundation will fund these international systemic forgiveness projects. The mission of the Colin Tipping Foundation is to facilitate emotional wellbeing, living with awareness and resilience which will enable learners to embrace, advance and develop their full human potential.
Leadership Development
Finally, leadership development is also at the heart of the Institute’s future focus. With the IIRFL, Godfrey seeks to use his passion and experience in leadership development, by creating programs that will help leaders in communities, organizations and all walks of life to rise above their own egos and in so doing being released from their shadow that derails them from their purpose. In this way, the IIRFL aims to bring reconciliation and promote healing through Radical Forgiveness programs.
The International Institute for Radical Forgiveness and Leadership looks forward to partnering with you on this personal growth and development journey
6. My Ideal Self: Who I would really like to be
Who would you love to be if there were no limitations, expectations, or barriers? If you were really free to be who you wanted to be, how would it look or feel? Who are your personal heroes and role models?
In the next Module, you will be asked about your personal heroes and role modules and the impact that they have had in your life. You will reflect on what it is about these heroes and role models that you can imagine having in yourself. Its important to answer as open and honestly as possible.
After you have completed this question there will be the following evaluation:
Congruency
In each case, any score above 50 shows that your two selves (perceived real self and inferred self) are on the side of being congruent. (i.e. similar). Similarly, any score above 50 indicates your other two sides (perceived real self and your ideal self) are on the side of being congruent.
If either one is showing a level of congruency less than 50 this indicates a significant level of incongruency which can begin to be problematic for you.
Such a difference in the first one (a) will lead to low confidence and uncertainty about who you are. Social interaction will be difficult and, as a result, you may be inclined to withdraw and avoid social situations. Anything lower than 40 would likely cause a high level of anxiety and various forms of aberrant behavior.
Such a difference in the second one (b) will lead to loss of one’s true identity and at a very low level might involve self-deception, grandiosity, high need to prove oneself and irregular or uncharacteristic behavior.
How To Correct the Incongruency:
In the case of (a) you need to use your chart constructed in 1 and 2 to identify the aspects of you that you projecting out to other people which they are picking up, that are NOT true.
Then you will need to make conscious effort to correct how you project those aspects, by consciously willing yourself to project the opposite – in other words what is true about you.
It will feel difficult and scary at first because you have been hiding yourself for a reason, even if you don’t know what it is. This may be revealed as you progress through this program so be patient about knowing the source of what made you develop a false identity to present to the world. The reason is not all that important anyway. The important thing is to make effort to change how you present your true self to the world, now that you know where and how the misperception occurs. Relax and be yourself.
In the case of (b) you will need to look at charts 1 and 4 to see where the gaps between reality and fantasy are too wide. There is a reason for this which, again, will probably be revealed as you go through the program, but for now it is probably enough to begin making conscious effort to decrease the energy you give to the fantasy personality you would love to be and increase your awareness and appreciation of who you are, just the way you are.
At the end of the program, you will have a chance to do a similar evaluation with which to compare. Hopefully, there will be a lot more congruency.
See you in the next Module!
Get your Quiz Hat on, as at the end of Module 7, we will be asking you some questions about the things you have reflected on in the past few modules.
